Exit plan: Consider the desert lilies!

Desert lilies bloom around our camp at Midland Long Term Visitor Area, Blythe, California!

“Aren’t they gorgeous, Reg?  I love them!”

We zigzag across the desert, from one desert lily to the next.

“Come this way!  This one’s a beauty!”

I lower myself with my camera, a fitting curtsy to royalty!

Yesterday afternoon and all last night, it rained.

This morning the ground is still wet in many places, mostly in the washes.  The sand is so hard-packed that we don’t sink into mud.

I’ve been watching the lilies for several days. 

My anticipation has grown every day from when the first, rippled leaves appeared, then the stalks, followed by buds . . . .

When I spot the first bloom —  a white dot against green — Reggie and I sprint over for a close view.

What a treat to see my first desert lily!

Now I see plants with double and triple stalks with bloom clusters and more buds yet to open.

“Look at this one, Reggie.  It’s a tall one.”

Recently, in the comments section of this blog, a reader asks if I have an exit plan.

In other words, when the day comes that I decide (or am forced) to stop full-time vagabonding, what will I do?

During daily walks with Reggie, when I’m not going nuts over desert lilies, I’ve given thought to that question.

Back in 2011 when I sold my house and most of my belongings, headed to Texas and picked up the Best Little Trailer from the Casita factory, I wasn’t thinking about an exit plan.

I brushed it off with “Something will work out.”

Only during the past year, when in various places, have I found myself wondering, “Would I want to establish a home base here?  Gradually make it my permanent home?”

Briefly I consider it and then, “No, I’d tire of this place.  I’d be itching to move to the next camp!”

I can’t imagine me settling into a permanent space in an RV park or getting rid of the BLT to live in an apartment.

After years of quiet solitude, feeling a closeness with nature, I’d surely lose my ever-lovin’ mind.

I’m not kidding.

To give a simple, direct answer to the question . . . .

No, I don’t have an exit plan, unless you call trusting that one will be provided as a plan.

For example . . .

In 2011 I had no idea that my fledgling blog would grow to become this Great Big Goose laying golden eggs aka Amazon commissions.

If you told me that’s what would happen, I wouldn’t have believed it!

Saving every penny of commission toward a second retirement and having faith that things will work out is the closest thing I have to an exit plan.

Call it the His-Eye-Is-On-The-Sparrow Exit Plan. 

Stick with me through the coming days, weeks, years, however much good health and time I’m given on the road and on this planet, and together we’ll see how this plan works out!

Meanwhile . . . .

“Consider the lilies, how they grow . . . .”

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108 Responses to Exit plan: Consider the desert lilies!

  1. Dawn in NC says:

    First?

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      CONGRATULATIONS, DAWN! FIRST PLACE!

      • rvsueandcrew says:

        Poor Reggie has been waiting patiently for some attention. He’s whining. We need to go into town and that will make him happy.

        Blogorinos: Please take over for me…. Thank you!

        Sue

  2. Teri Live Oak Fl says:

    Man you are fast 😁

  3. Cynthia from San Clemente says:

    Second?

  4. Chris B and Diego in Southern California says:

    Looks like the California deserts will be putting on a nice show this year. Love it!

  5. Linda & the 3M's Carmichael, Ca says:

    Top of the list again. Yay.

  6. Elaine from BC says:

    Beautiful post Sue. Thank you. I saw these lily’s before they bloomed just a couple of weeks ago, you are keeping me in touch with them.

  7. Cynthia from San Clemente says:

    They do not toil, neither do they spin. 🙂 We’ll all stay tuned to see what happens!

    I’ve never seen desert lilies before – they are quite beautiful, especially the curly leaves. Are they all white or do they bloom in other colors? Does Reggie ever nibble on green growing things? I don’t know about desert lilies, but I know the cultivated lily is very poisonous to dogs ….

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      Hi, Cynthia,

      Reggie only chews grass and only when he needs it for his digestion. Now that I think about it, neither Spike nor Bridget bothered tasting any plants but grass, and we camped around all sorts of plants. I don’t know if desert lilies are poisonous. Maybe I’ll find a link about that and post it.

  8. Teri Live Oak Fl says:

    For a desert it sure rains often. Here in my neck of Florida no rain this year yet and 87 right now for February! Love your plans for the future.

  9. Kristi & Daisie (Nampa, ID) says:

    Beautiful desert flowers–and when the others start blooming, it will be even more gorgeous. The desert in springtime is a wonderful thing. I envy your view to come. 😀

  10. Dawn in MI says:

    Just love that red/orange jacket on Reggie! It shows up so pretty in photos too!

  11. Sherri D says:

    The lilies don’t worry about an exit plan. They bloom and absorb sunshine and set the stage for the next time they will bloom again.

    I think we were brought up with the ant and the grasshopper story drilled into our brains. I am a grasshopper. Sometimes I feel a bit guilty about that, but it has been more fun than being an ant. 😀
    Love ya Sue! (and Reggie too)

  12. Linda & the 3M's Carmichael, Ca says:

    The lilies are gorgeous. You are changing my way of thinking about the desert. I’ll have to try it in the early spring sometime. I love your exit plan. Sounds perfect.

  13. Shawna says:

    Beautiful shots of this lovely desert plant! And good for you to just go with the flow. I like your exit strategy and the faith it will happen the way it’s supposed to happen.

    We had some rainy weather here in Havasu, too. I enjoyed the rain and wind storm late yesterday and through the night. It was lovely to enjoy it without fear of a tree or power pole being blow over onto us!

    I am not quite where you are in the bigger scheme of things, but I do know that I will be returning to my current home base before the tax deadline, get that taken care of, get repairs and cleanup accomplished post flood, and getting the place on the market. Getting there!!

  14. Patricia K says:

    Love the lillies!! 🙂 Bulverde Pat

  15. Airstreaming Pagey says:

    Beautiful lilies! I have not been able to find them in the little spot of the Sonoran where we are based right now.

    I agree with your exit plan strategy. When a place calls to us and our hearts tell us it’s time, we’ll get off the road. Not before.

  16. Robin B (Oregon & Arizona) says:

    Knowing what our future holds is an ongoing discussion with my spouse. Even though I’ve been retired for two years we are still feeling our way in this retirement thing. We figure we’ll know what we want about the time we are moving into the assisted living facility. 🙂

    In the meantime, we are looking forward to an overnight jaunt on Thursday to Tombstone and the Chiricahua mountains in SE AZ, which I hear are interesting and gorgeous. And looking forward to warmer weather (finally!).

    I don’t have a photo yet, but I have discovered the Texas mountain laurel which is planted around around our villa complex, and not only are the purple blooms gorgeous, they also have a delicious aroma.

    • JazzLoverWMa says:

      Robin B, how was your trip to Tombstone and the Chiricahuas? I worked in Tombstone for several years, which was interesting. Definitely a tourist town but the court house is one of the best original, historic buildings there. The Chiricahuas was the one place we always took friends who came to visit us because of its’ unusual beauty and Apache history. No wonder it is a National Monument. How did you like the ride to the top?

  17. Barb from Hoquiam! says:

    Beautiful! Absolutely amazing!

    You know… who has a plan that actually comes to fruition? I know my ‘exit plan’ was WAY different from what it is now. Never in a zillion years would I have thought I would need to plan for ‘lack of brain function’ days (ongoingly… is that a word? It is now). After years and years in the city, I was a farmer… raising my llamas, going to open a B&B, that was my end plan. Woopsiedoodles. 😛 Where ever you land, I am sure you will bring a special something to it.

    I am not sure if they are blogarinos or not (I passed on your blog a long while back, but don’t notice if they comment) to some friends. I won’t mention names… They were ready to make a change, and chose this life for their coming up years. One has dementia, and the quiet of camp and the small living space suits them perfectly, at least for now. They are happier now than they have been in a while. It is interesting, as one is still earning an income (works via internet) but they have made it work and work well.

    Sue, I think your sharing of your skills and thoughts has made a real difference in many people–letting them know it CAN be done.

    Hugs from Hoquiam!
    Barb

  18. Judy says:

    Some beautiful photos here Reggie and the desert lilies. Love all your pics

  19. Retiredcajunlady 'N Louisiana says:

    Oh Sue, I do so understand your only “exit plan” right now is when you move to your next adventure home! And I am just so happy you still plan to include us all in your adventures. Thank you so much for this gift!

    The desert lily photos are just wonderful! How blessed you are that your patience was rewarded with such beauty. I think even Reggie is enjoying them.

    I hope the rest of your day is filled with much beauty and peace. Take care. Belly rubs, hugs, ear scratches and prayers!!

    • Retiredcajunlady 'N Louisiana says:

      I posted this earlier on the previous blog post. I wasn’t sure anyone would see it there…..soooooo….gotta love copy and paste feature!!!

      Happy Mardi Gras to all Blogorinos!!! Laissez les bons temps rouler!!! When I was very young, I thought the whole world had Mardi Gras parades. And I believed all parades had riders who threw trinkets to the crowds. My sisters and I tried to get Mardi Gras declared a national holiday. We didn’t succeed.

      For all my Catholic friends in Blogorinoland, here is wishing y’all a happy and holy Lenten Season. For all my Non-Catholic friends in blogorinoland, here is wishing y’all a blessed, peaceful, and happy six weeks as we wait for Easter.

  20. Jolene/Iowa says:

    Fair enough! I just wondered if much had changed or if any place had felt like it might be home someday. I totally understand what you are saying and agree that when you need to be making a plan, it will come together. In the meantime, God willing, I am along for the ride and loving it!! Thank you!!

  21. Marcia GB in MA says:

    So cute to see Reggie checking out the desert lilies. They are lovely!

  22. ValGal (westernWA) says:

    Love, love, love the desert lilies! Gorgeous! Reg seems to have enjoyed checking them out, too. I like his new orange/red coat.

    Exit plan. So tough to figure that one out. We don’t really know ahead of time what our needs and desires will be. I think, as long as you don’t have a sudden big health change, the plan will naturally emerge when it’s time. And if you do have a sudden situation, God forbid, options will present themselves then, too.

    Hope you and Reg are enjoying town and getting something tasty to eat!

  23. Claudia says:

    The lillies are so beautiful! Do the have a smell?

  24. Rochelle in IN says:

    I love the name of your exit plan! 🙂 I think you have hit the right balance – not worrying yet being financially responsible. You did make me LOL at the Great Golden Goose of Amazon, though!

  25. Jean in Southaven, MS says:

    I love the Desert Lilies. I did not know there was such a thing. They remind me of Amarillis that we have. I really enjoyed the comments section of your last post. I did not comment, but I found it very interesting and informative. Thanks to all the blogorinos for all that information. Great stuff.

    I have a new grandson, born Friday. He is number 8 grandchild. I am proud. My youngest one before this one is almost 10. So glad to have another baby to spoil.

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      Congratulations, Grandma! Let the spoiling begin! 🙂

      I’m glad you enjoyed the comments under the previous post. For anyone curious, most of the comments were about crafts and ways to make money.

  26. Pat from Mich. says:

    I don’t think I’ve ever seen a desert lily before! Those long runners (leaves?) that run out from the plant are quite interesting. My dream was always to travel when I retired, visiting different parts of the country. Now I’m retired, but still not free. My adult son lives with me, my house is still ‘underwater’ and even if I could sell the house, I’d have no money to get an RV of any size over a pop-up. So, I go to the senior center to play cards. Such is life.

    • Barbara (Nashville) says:

      That is not too bad. I still have a mortgage to pay, plus a car payment. I go to the YMCA for exercise class 3 days per week then coffee with some classmates after in their coffee bar. Also walk my dog 3 times per day. I hope at some point, if I can’t full-time RV, that I can at least take some trips that the “Y” offers. A lot of my classmates go on them. Heard they are really fun and pretty affordable, considering. They also have “Meet for lunch” at a local restaurant once per month, our expense and they have a lunch & bowl gathering every month at the local bowling lanes. These things may not be at all YMCA’s, but maybe it could be suggested. Just thought I could possibly give you another option to get out.

  27. Renee Galligher - Idaho says:

    Hi Sue and Reggie, good to see you again. The lilies are beautiful. What a treat to see such a beautiful bloom in the desert. Do they have a fragrance? Their colors are subtle, almost camouflage.

  28. Barbara (Nashville) says:

    Nice blog to get one thinking about “down the road.” In the meantime, the blooming desert lillies are beautiful and Reggie is cute as ever. That pumpkin colored vest really looks good on him.

  29. Judy in East Texas says:

    Sue and Reggie….oh what great pictures we got this time. I love those outstretched arms of the desert lilies.
    I’m with you, on an exit plan….although I haven’t even got to start yet….mines going to be go till I can’t go any further, dig a hole and kick me over in it. Since I travel so much for my job..but only in Texas…I don’t believe when the day comes to give up my job I will be able to sit still and will continue to move along, at least outside the state. My son’s are appalled that I am even considering such an adventure….what am I thinking….they think they need to lock me in the looney bin.
    I keep telling them they are not the boss of me.
    I can’t wait to follow in your footsteps and leave a few steps of my own.
    Still locked in the windowless office in Atlanta.
    Be safe out there my friend…..judy

    • MB from VA says:

      Goooooo Judy! 🙂 I understand when friends/family get protective because they love me. But NO one has the right to tell me what to do with my precious life. Whether or not your sons know it, you are setting them a wonderful example….

      Have a great day!
      MB from VA

  30. Karen in Pacific NW says:

    I know of one elderly woman who had an “exit” retirement plan. She used her income to travel on cruise ships. It cost no more than staying in a good quality assisted living apartment and was perfect for someone who had wanderlust 😉

  31. Rover Ronda (WA) says:

    Great blog! I like your plan! Reggie and the lillies look wonderful!

  32. Love the photos of the desert Lillies and of Reggieman in his Red Sweater,,,, I too think of the future and where we’ll be going next, but I am trying to leave that worry up to “you know who” for guidance on the matter, I have lost or to say it better I’m losing my hearing in my left ear, I’m unable to hear the truck sounds and asking people to speak up or wait till I get closer, I’m wondering if I may have water in it, I have been putting ear wax removal in it and using a ear bulb to remove it,, it started back in January as I was comming back from Prescott, it feels like a fog on the left side of my head and I’m wondering if my system is still trying to recoup from all the stuff the va put in me,, I’ve stopped taking the meds and my heart is slower now, with the meds my heart would pound fast and was having nightmares, but now I sleep a sound sleep like a baby, I’m leaving that up to “Him” also,,,,,, have a great week and stay safe and give Reggieman a huge hug from us,,,,,,, Piper says hi too,,,,,,, me

  33. Sheila Melcher says:

    Love the photo of Reggie with the lily and his shadow!

  34. Sarvi in OR says:

    I haven’t even started my “entry” yet, but I think my “exit plan” would include some snowbirding. I love love LOVE Oregon in the summer time, it’s an amazing and beautiful state, but the 8ish months of rain in the winter tend to get me down. If my entry plan goes as expected, I will only be 54 when I get started, hopefully leaving me many years of full-timing. Once I tire of that (if that’s even possible), I will likely split my time between Oregon and someplace warm. I can’t for certain say Arizona at this point, because I’ve never been there. I am happiest when I’m warm and can feel the sun, so definitely someplace south, with little rain and a lot of sun.

    • Robin B (Oregon & Arizona) says:

      Hi Sarvi, I’m also from Oregon (Salem) and after exploring Arizona for a place to be a “rainbird,” we purchased a small casita/condo in Green Valley (at a very reasonable price), a 55+ community 20 miles south of Tucson. It’s gorgeous here with lots to do and interesting places to visit. I am surprised at how little I miss Oregon (especially this past winter!), although looking forward to getting to the beach. We’ve been here since Dec 1 and have to admit that while we’ve had a lot of sunshine, we’ve had very few what you would call warm days (70-80, and January was downright cold at times) but March 1 promises to be nicer. We return to Oregon in a few weeks and will return next February and stay until May or so.

      • Sarvi in OR says:

        That sounds awesome, Robin. I’m in Albany, so not very far from Salem. This winter has been brutal here, with a record amount of rain, and several snow events.

        I have a reservation at a state park on the beach for Labor Day Weekend, I can’t wait!

  35. Steve Kaeseman says:

    Mrs RV Sue and Mr Reggie, Love your Exit Plan, living one day to two weeks at a time
    seems like a Great way to live and be Stress free. Thinking too much of, worrying at all of what may or may not happen happen too far in your future seems the best way to ensure
    you and Reggie man continues to live the Best lives you can have. We envy you and Reggie and hope to one follow in your footsteps. May you and Reggie continue to be blessed and may you always have Fair Winds and Following Seas.
    Respectfully,
    Bridge and Steve

  36. Suzicruzi from Van., WA says:

    Wow Sue. Wow. Wow. Wow. I can’t wait to see my first desert Lilly bloom!! When you have Doggy love and desert lillies, I don’t believe you need an exit plan. We have today. What else is there, really?

  37. Stephanie Albany OR says:

    Thank you Sue for your exit plan thoughts. I loved your pics of the desert lilies. Beautiful.

  38. Cinandjules (da zone) says:

    The desert lilies are beautiful! Spring has sprung! My sister reassures me ..this rainfall amount isn’t normal!

    The exit plan……everyone goes thru the “what ifs in life”..having a plan B is good to muddle thru the head…you’ve always easily adapt to the ever changing scenarios of your journey. Living on less and enjoying life more is the motto you created…like this blog. Living your dash….prepared for whatever situation arises and not worrying about something you have no control of…ie the future. Que sera sera!

    Which way are we headed? North, South, East or West?

    I came across a gadget, cuz I am the gadget queen, that you or my fellow blogorinos may find handy..whether it be on da road whathaveyou! Ready?
    Nite itz, the maker of the carabiner hooked to Spike’s flashing lite…has an adjustable bungee cord. Instead of buying several bungees in different lengths…you buy one and adjust it! It’s called…..Nite Itz knotbone! And guess what? Amazon sells them! Comes in different sizes….the #5 seems to be the most popular!
    Not going to post a link cuz you’ll have to change it….so work with me…RVSUe insert your link here. =>.

    Nite Ize Knotbone Adjustable Bungee

    Have a great evening……🌵

  39. Elizabeth says:

    Well, hubby retired, but we have been living in places since that were not long on the radar…we still wish we could wander more…and maybe we will. We are needed here for awhile…maybe for 2 years yet…but we had no plans to return to WA state when we left over 16 years ago…and so how can one plan really? I think you are wise saving what all you can…and no doubt the peaceful existence you have enjoyed has lengthened your life too. In our new place here, the noise is much less…esp. at night…and I hear nothing from the roads when sleeping in the bedroom and THAT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER!!! YIPPEE!!!! Tis also a benefit to be only 3 miles from our daughter and her family. We have a large enough driveway for a rig if we decide to get one at some point…either to travel some…or travel full-time as you do, Sue…so at least that!!

  40. Linda-NC says:

    Hi Sue- I love the exit plan. We never know what tomorrow will bring and so why plan it! Is say enjoy what we have now and let tomorrow worry about itself. I am just getting started at 66, so they might have to pry my cold dead hands off of the steering wheel. So be it. I love the lilies, as I am a flower fanatic. I have never seen a real one, so it is on my list. Also, I saw a article about Amazon Lockbox, and I will post it here with your permission, in case anyone is interested. It will be in more places soon the article states. Good for people like us:) Even Reggie likes lilies but of course he has good taste:) Have a peaceful evening!

  41. Mary in CO says:

    Desert lilies! I was on my knees outside of our campsite off Ogilby Rd taking a picture of 3in a row this morning!
    A lovely rain, all night, and today sunshine skies as we made our way south to San Felipe to a campsite , “La Palapa” right on the beach! We’ll see how we like the “city” life for a couple of nights. It does have wifi. Dogs had a beach run , licked a dead jellyfish, and now are sand covered! But they will sleep in the truck.

  42. denimlady in DSM says:

    WOW; just wow

  43. Pam & Maya still in New York says:

    Great post Sue! I’m glad to hear that Amazon is good for you. I always feel a little guilty but these days I buy nothing – because if I get back on the road I will just have to get rid of it all again!!! My knee surgery is Thursday, wish me luck!

  44. Jules MN says:

    Thank you for sharing the blooming desert with us! Great pictures. Just reading about having an exit plan causes me great anxiety. I think you are way ahead of the game not owning a house.

  45. Other than moving in with some relative or friend crazy enough to have me, my exit plan is to exit the planet.

  46. Tammie Villanueva says:

    Beautiful lilies and Reggie looking handsome as ever 🐶

  47. Sharon in MO says:

    Great post, Sue. I love all the beautiful lily photos. Your exit plan sounds like a good one to me. I have heard, if you want to make God laugh, make your plans! Anyway, I think you will do fine with Reggie and will know when it is time for a change. Meanwhile, please keep sharing the beauties of our world with us!

  48. The lilly photos are stunning!

  49. Denise - Richmond VA says:

    Hi, Sue!

    Do the desert lilies have a scent? Please forgive me if you have answered this question….I need to catch up on the comments. The lilies are beautiful! I always associate white lilies with Easter.

    Reggie sure looks cute in his new snugly coat! I can tell that he likes it! Such a handsome, happy little guy!

    Considering “next chapters” can be challenging. Keep on rolling….you will know when you need to consider to make a change. I understand…..the past 6 mos I have been working with a realtor, researching properties/neighborhoods to consider for downsizing. Not getting into specifics, but it has been a real eye-opening, frustrating experience. I have put the process on hold, and trust that I will be shown the way if and when the time is right. In the meantime, I will continue to downsize and purge my stuff, Gracie pup and I will enjoy our home, feed the birds, and sit in our swing on the patio, watching the world go by! 🙂

    It has been a hectic few weeks in my world. I am checking in occasionally, even if I don’t leave a comment. Have a good evening, Sue! Sending you and Reggie love and hugs from me and Gracie pup! xxxooo 🙂

  50. R. says:

    I told you Desert Lilies are going to be plentiful this year, didn’t I? And they are so gorgeous. Enjoy them. They don’t bloom every year.

    • R. says:

      Forgot to add there is Desert Lily Sanctuary in California. Easy to get to it from Desert Center exit of I-10 and then about 5-7 miles north on route 177.

  51. Cinandjules (🌵=🦂) says:

    Now how did you do that? Post twice? The capcha or whatever you call it…didn’t like my simple addition…so I tab back like it said…did the same math problem…nope. So I copied, cut and pasted it…to a refreshed screen and whalllah….it said….”seems like you posted that comment already”

    Waited a few minutes and was able to post.

  52. Rhonda Patrick says:

    Are they Ajo Lillies ? I was told they were. Ajo of course means garlic and they were similar to the way garlic grows. Turns out they were more like green onions. Beautiful flowers anyway. We visited Ajo in our Motorhome earlier in the month mostly because of your blog. Went to Organ Pipe Monument when there. Great trip. Thanks for giving us the idea to visit there.

  53. Paula says:

    I so appreciate your inspiration as I am 54 years old and have traveled half a year on the road with three Pomeranians and now and down to two. I sell military caps t-shirts patches pins and also bling apparel for women at vendor shows all over the nation. I still own a townhome but have vacillated the idea of selling it. My mode of travel is a teardrop trailer and Ford Escort XLT van in which I store my merchandise I love it but am still waiting for the moment that I will leap the leap like you have thank you for everything. Paula Lucas also included is Ted and Tara my two Pomeranians

    • MB from VA says:

      Interesting. Thank you for sharing. I am going to be full-timing soon as a 57 year old with a part-time computer job. I had thought of doing something like what you describe for extra cash. I know I will have some sort of blog even if just for family and friends. I love to write and used to do it just for fun some years ago. There are always opportunities, huh? Have a great day and thank you again for sharing. MB from VA and Wyndy (retriever/hound) and Bella (Chihuahua).

  54. MB from VA says:

    Tears…..and “Thank you”.
    Love,
    MB

  55. weather says:

    It really is quite miraculous that you happen to be camped there in a year when the desert lilies’ are blossoming and flowering right around your home. Seeing exactly that type of unpredictable provision of gifts, that we had no reason to expect, just at the time you’re considering how to answer the question asked about your exit plan seems as though you’re being given a direction-“For now, consider only this, surprising delights are waiting for you- ones you cannot plan for, yet will enjoy.”

    When I’ve made plans, throughout my life, unforeseen details and events have greatly altered each one. One of those involves the topic of having an exit plan should I ever no longer wish to travel much. Though my son and I never discussed it he was with me so knew that I’d given up things in order to provide homes, education and all that was needed to secure a successful future for him. He also knew those were my choices and that I expected nothing in return except the joy of having him in my life.

    So-o…When he said he and my daughter in law wanted to build a home for me on their home’s lot in San Diego (for me to have when I’m ready for it), and asked me if that’s something I’d like, I was both stunned and thrilled. It was a given when I gave up the house I had there in order for us to afford coming east, and get him through the two universities he’d chosen to get his teaching degree, that I wouldn’t be able to replace that home. I often worked two jobs, and sometimes three, to pay the mortgage then. It’s just a very expensive place to live though the private and public schools there where perfect for my son so it was worth it.

    You know, it broke my heart to leave a city with an ocean I could go to everyday. It took me years to stop referring to it as home in my own thoughts. Again, this wasn’t anything I ever spoke about with my son. Instead I focused on what was great in life here whenever we talked about whatever. Still, he knows me, so understood more than I wanted him to. Anyways, will I end up living there eventually? Lord only knows, it’s wonderful to know that I could and that the family wants me near them. Prior to that amazing offer I’d thought of several alternatives, one was to just keep finding heavenly places to camp until I go to heaven. It’s a big beautiful earth to explore and enjoy, we’ll see what happens as it unfolds.

    • Cynthia from San Clemente says:

      Weather, your words and actions are a perfect example of unselfish love and I am not surprised at all that your son and DIL want to build a home for you on their lot. What a wonderful option to have if you someday need care nearby. Love has a way of boomeranging (not sure if that’s a word)!

    • Elizabeth says:

      How lovely that your sacrifice for your son has paid off in this lovely offer!! I am so happy for you. We never asked for anything either (and did our best to help our kids have the best we could manage)…and so far? Only 1 has mentioned what she would like to do for us in the future…life is very hard for her now and we are helping her as much as we can…expecting nothing. We HOPE we do not linger and become a burden of any kind however…we would prefer to go at the same time…but not every wish here is granted either. Meanwhile, trying to live as frugally as we can, yet have some fun too. Wishing
      our health was better and doing what we can to help it go that direction. I do hope you get to do things as you want to…tis nice to have options!!

    • weather says:

      Thank you for your kind notes and words, friends, and for being happy for me!

  56. Suzette (TN) says:

    I love that you’re planning to keep on keepin’ on. I want to be able to check in here for a long, long time and catch up with She Who is Living My Dream.

    Do the lilies have a fragrance? Taking a sniff is always the first thing I do when I run across a new-to-me flower.

    Keep on keepin’ on. I’ll keep on peepin’ in.

    Suzette

  57. Carolyn H in AZ says:

    The desert lilies are beautiful. Didn’t even know there is such a flower. You learn something new every day. I enjoy all of your photos. You are an excellent photographer.

  58. steve says:

    Lurker who has thoroughly enjoyed your blog for years. With the eye is on the sparrow reference and the lilies neither toiling or spin, sounds to me like you have the exit plan taken care of in a fine fashion. Mine is some glad morning, I’ll fly away.

  59. Dawn in Asheville says:

    The lily pics are gorgeous!!! I’ve been out here catching the daffodils and crocuses in bloom 🙂 Looks like the pics just seem greener after a rain?

  60. Geri, Florida panhandle! says:

    I agree with your exit plan. Just don’t be too surprised if you come to a unexpected bend in the road! LOL! When Chuck and I sold our place in NM to EmilyO, we wanted to come be near Chuck’s family and continue workamping at Florida State Parks for as long as we could. Well, that was all of 2 years until I fell and hurt my back and that our unexpected bend in the road. So then we had to decide where we wanted to be and immediately we knew it would be here, in the Florida Panhandle. We still live in our 5th wheel RV that we affectionately call The Mothership and we are happily enjoying life but dang we miss seeing you Sue!

  61. Barbara from Camano says:

    What a wonderful story you wove among the lilies, along with a touch of lightness from the Reggie man. You made my heart sing.

    Hope this isn’t a repeat. I too am trying cut and paste method as didn’t take my first two tries.

  62. Patti from So Cal says:

    Hi, Sue & Reg,
    I hope you had a lovely day and will have a lovely evening.
    “Consider the lilies…” indeed. Such was last Sunday’s Gospel reading.
    The Good Lord will provide, and in wondrous ways you may not expect.
    I read some older blogs and I must say, some of your photos are beautiful! You have an eye for composition! Nature photography is one of my serious passions. I have sold them in the past and hope to start doing so again. I just spent 5 days in Yosemite hoping for some nice winter shots. But, it rained & snowed most of the time so I managed to get only a few decent pics. No problem, I think I have about 1,000 Yosemite pics and I just enjoy being there :).
    I love the Reggie photos as well,,,,what a cutie!
    My prayers for you and Reg’s safety and well-being are said.

  63. Sally Jacob says:

    I so agree with your plan for “whats next” … I look for peace and no stress, the funds to pay the bills and some fun along the way no matter what. Live life in the way you want as long as one can. If we are all lucky enough we will die suddenly doing just what we love. … and any family [2 or 4 footer] are safe and loved by those who care about us. I keep a simple updated notebook so my 4 footers will be cared for and their meds, food and lifestyle needs will be met. Who they would go to short term or long term is well known. Enjoy each day to the max… but have a simple exit overview so no one is left to wonder the day to day details of my left behind 4 footers may need. Life is for living and our loved ones to share it with. Tomorrow will take care of it self.. we just need to leave some basic info for those who will travel beyond our time. IMHO.
    I have never missed a blog and been with you sense almost day one! Hard to believe it has been sense 2011. Thank you RV Sue for such awesome adventures for me through your eyes.. Spike and Bridget too! Reggie keep the fun coming! Hugs. Sally

  64. Diane Fitzsimmons says:

    One of your best blog items.

  65. Terri From Texas says:

    Howdy from Texas, Everyone! Haven’t commented in awhile. Been busy working and helping my in-laws with their exit plan! Cleaning out 60 years worth of stuff from a house ain’t easy! THEN you gotta fix it up to sell! Fortunately, it was their idea to move somewhere much much smaller with meals fixed. My sister and I practically had to pry my mother out of her house when she couldn’t take care of it anymore. Its better if its voluntary. With no children I know it will be up to me and hubby to have our exit plan in place when we get older and can’t maintain a place anymore. I am glad it will be us making the decision and not children who may or may not be kind. Great post RV Sue and I love the pics of the Lilies and Reggie, too, of course. I have been wanting to comment lately, just haven’t had the time. On the subject of the CHECK ENGINE LIGHT. I had this happen a few weeks ago. Know that if you have a car without a gas cap-one that seals internally-your light may come on. A strong possibility is that it may just need cleaning. My husband is active on the Ford Forum and found this out. Otherwise, you may take it to a dealer and have them sell you a new $300 gas assembly! My husband cleaned ours and the light went out. Phew! Apparently this is a common thing. I will shut up now!
    Cheers, Everyone!
    Terri

  66. rvsueandcrew says:

    HELLO EVERYBODY!

    Well, again I have let the comments get way ahead of me. It’s wonderful to see so many blogorinos — new and “old” — joining in the chatter here. Every comment is enjoyed and appreciated!

    I’m in the middle of putting the next post together. Rather than reply to comments, I’ll keep working on it. 🙂

    Bye for now,
    Sue

  67. 11Blade says:

    Hi Sue,
    I’m downwind of you in the desert west of Phoenix. Finished a job in Northern Arizona mid February and headed for t-shirt and shorts weather. Sister thought that was a good idea, too, so she came down from Eastern Canada for golf, shopping, dining and other fun. It’s taken another few days to rest up from the laps at the Outlet Mall (her buying, NOT me).

    My work travels have taken me all over the U.S., Alaska included, and I’m always looking at an exit plan at the places I work. Places in Arizona (NOT Phoenix) and Texas are high on my list for the weather and nice people. I want ice and freezing temps to be a freak occurence where ever I settle down. I don’t see very many houses I’d be interested in living in because developers have built them too big for the last 20 years.

    This last job gave me more insight into other things to consider when settling down. As a rule, I won’t seek treatment at a hospital I’m working at because I don’t want my personal health information in their system, and, I don’t want to interact with providers there as a patient. This isn’t usually a reflection on the hospital, but my personal preference.

    In January-February I had a health issue that probably developed into pneumonia, requiring me to drive 75 miles the closest ‘other’ medical facility (urgent care). I realized that I’m young, healthy, and was able to do this despite a temporary health setback. That may not be the case in 5-10-15 years. Rural health care has become increasingly centralized, and, specialty care may require traveling long distances (heart cath, heart surgery, fracture surgery, etc.)

    The only option that I’m aware of right now that would keep me in my rig, travel ready when feeling better, is at the home base for Escapees in Livingston, Tx. It is rural, sort of, yet has good proximity to state of the art specialty care in Houston. Escapees have a CARE program with varying levels of assistance to help folks out with staying in their rig while they recuperate. Perhaps more option will be available when health issues force an exit, eh?

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      Very engaging and thought-provoking comment, 11blade. I’m sorry you experienced a health “issue” and that you had to drive so far for treatment. I hope you are fully recovered.

      Yes, the proximity of good health care is high on my list of considerations if and when I decide to buy property. I agree with you about developers building too many big homes. I suppose zoning prohibits little one-room or two-room houses, but that’s all I’d ever want.

      Tough to find a place that meets all criteria — accessible to health care and necessities, rural, mild winters, and affordable. Lots of folks enjoy the Escapees parks. I don’t see me going that route, even if I could afford it.

      One of these years I should explore Texas.

      Nice hearing from you.

  68. Gal and a cat in Fl says:

    I too read about a place in Texas for retired full timers when they can’t travel anymore. They can park there and live in their rig with or without assistance. It was not real expensive if I recall. Close to Houston medical care and transportation if you need it. Of course it’s not like being on the road, but hey…..
    At least someone has thought about full timers and that’s great.

  69. 11Blade says:

    Thanks. Almost fully recovered. Two weeks west of Phoenix, in warm dry weather does wonders. I LOVE the peace of BLM camping. Currently at Saddle Mountain BLM area, where there are others who I see driving by from time to time, but not visiting. Closest services are 8 miles away in Tonopah, and, from my elevated spot I can see truck traffic on I 10 off in the distance, but don’t hear it. Another good thing about this location is when the torrential rains came through last week it didn’t affect roads in/out because of higher elevation and good drainage. That said, you STILL have to watch where you drive and park in the desert. After the rain, I went to Tonopah for gas and saw a car parked under covered parking with water up to the bottom door opening….that’s going to be a problem if their carpet is wet (computer brain sits under seats).

    Anyways, other perks-Verizon signal for phone and hotspot is 3 bars and predominant southwest winds keep chicken farm odor away. TV signal is like living in Phoenix, lots of channels. An east wind is nasty, though. Hickman’s stealth-moved a massive egg laying operation into Tonopah in the last couple of years and the odor is noticeable from I10 6 miles east…yuck. The drive into Phoenix is at least 50 miles, but most things can be found in Buckeye or Goodyear. One note about Buckeye….local sales tax of 9.3%….wtf! I won’t be shopping there again!

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      I know exactly where you are because I’ve camped there with my crew a couple of times. Thanks for posting the information, although I don’t know that many will see it under this previous post.

      I’m hoping the LOOK WHO’S TALKING widget will help readers to see comments that appear under posts other than the current one.

      Yeah, tell me about taxes… I’m in California and, well . . . . 🙂

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