A special request

Sunday, January 27

This post is a request for prayer for blogorino AZ Jim and his beloved wife, Detta.

Please open comments for details.



Detta passed on January 30th.  

Thanks to each of you who responded to the request above.  Jim expressed his love and appreciation in the comment section, among the more than one hundred twenty messages from his blogorino friends. — Sue

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150 Responses to A special request

  1. rvsueandcrew says:


    Our dear AZ Jim and his beloved wife, Detta, need our prayers. I received the following emails from Jim. His words explain the need better than anything I could write:

    First: “My girl went into hospital on the 23rd. Fracture of spine and they discovered probable cancer in her stomach. . . . ”

    Later: “My heart is broken. Detta is in hospice and mostly pain free I am told. She is seldom conscious but we told each other of our love over the phone this morning. She knows how hard it is for me to walk long distances (knees and balance plus my COPD) so she asked me not come see her today, as usual she worries about my falling, etc. I am going anyhow soon. Missy, I am destroyed . . . Hug, Jim”

    Please express your love and support for Jim and Detta and please pray.

    Thank you,

    • Columbus Calvin says:

      Prayers en route

    • Marlene Telford says:

      My prayer is for the strength you both need at this time and we all need at times in our own lives. Please know you do not walk this path alone, we love and care about you as a fellow traveler in this life. God, who is with us at all times is there with you right now, please lean on Him, He sees your sorrows and knows your needs, but we have to ask, because asking is a choice to believe or not. I pray for peace to come out of this chaos that is in your life, especially, yours Jim, as you can’t sleep, eat or even think straight right now….I know, I’ve been there, and my spouse died and I was crushed, for a long time, but once I realized The Lord was with me, the burden became lighter, and life did carry on. Pray for the Lord’s presence and comfort and take care of yourself as well, you are all Detta has. May God Bless you and Keep you forever. Marlene

    • Betty Shea says:

      Sending love and prayers.

  2. Becky in NJ says:

    Prayers for Detta and Jim. May you feel the Lord holding you both close at this difficult time, and feel his strength and peace. ❤

  3. Dawn in NC says:

    Jim, I am so sorry that you and Detta have to go through this. I am praying hard for you both. I pray that you are able to make it to her side.

  4. Jolene/Iowa says:

    Praying for Detta and Jim. It is hard to find words during times like this. I know that God holds all his children close to his heart. May you find peace and comfort as you go through the next phase of your lives. My heart breaks hearing this news. God bless.

  5. Lisa W says:

    Prayers being sent. Things like this are so hard.

  6. Pat in Rochester says:


  7. ReneeG says:

    I’m so sorry for whatever they are going through. My prayers are with them.

  8. weather says:

    Dearest Jim and Detta, what you are going through is beyond difficult…Oh, how I wish I could make things easier for you. I’m holding you in my heart, mind and prayers.
    Love and blessings, weather

  9. Rochelle in IN says:

    Praying for Jim & Detta. May God uphold you both.

  10. ReneeG says:

    Dear Jim and Delta. May God’s healing power and strength be with you.

  11. Michelle, Salt Lake UT says:

    Sending prayers your way Jim and Detta.

  12. Jill says:

    Prayers for this couple.

  13. KelleyinSoCal says:

    I’m so sorry Jim! Although I don’t know you, I always enjoy reading your comments. Sending good thoughts and love to you and Detta❤️

  14. Suzette in Tennessee says:

    Jim, may your love for one another bring you peace. And, may the knowledge that your online family supports you in this journey bring you strength. You are in my thoughts.

  15. Toni says:

    Praying for peace.

  16. Elaine Magliacane says:

    Hang in there Jim, Detta surely knows you love her to the moon and back, I will pray for you both during this difficult time.

  17. Kathy (NC) says:

    So very sorry – sending prayers and thoughts to you both.

  18. Reine in Princeton, TX (when not camping) says:

    Jim, I am praying that the Lord will be very close to both of you and give you peace and comfort during this difficult time. Please check with Hospice. I believe they can provide assistance to help you be with her since it will ease her mind to know you can visit her safely. My heart hurts for both of you.

  19. Cat M says:

    Love, hugs and prayers for Detta and Jim.

  20. chas in pa says:

    Prayers to you from PA.

  21. Linda Sand says:

    It’s so hard to watch a loved one suffer; I wish I could be there to hug you. I would ask the hospice to provide you a wheelchair ride from the front door to Detta’s side.

  22. Pam and Maya in Ajo for the winter! says:

    Dear Jim and Detta, I am so sorry you both are going through all of this. I am sending love and hugs to you both.

  23. Gail in Florida says:

    My heart aches for you. Prayers and thoughts for you both.

  24. Carol S. says:

    Deep peace of the running wave to you.
    Deep peace of the flowing air to you.
    Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.
    Deep peace of the shining stars to you.
    Deep peace of the infinite peace to you.

    I am so very sorry … sending Love & Light

  25. Patricia K. says:

    Praying a Rosary of prayers for Jim, and his precious Detta. May the peace and strength of our God surround them both, as sure and warm as their love is for each other. Pat K.

  26. Prayers for you and your Lady are coming from Kentucky 🐾👣👣

  27. You are surrounded with love and prayers and I am adding mine. Blessings to you, Jim and Detta, in this very difficult out time. May you feel the peace that passes understanding.

  28. Gail from Buckeye AZ says:

    Praying for you both.

  29. Sharon in MO says:

    Dear Jim and Detta,
    Life throws us many curves, and this is a big one. I pray you will continue to hold on to each other and that God will give you strength in the days ahead.

  30. Debra & Misty in AZ says:

    Prayers and love to Jim and Detta. May God’s grace comfort you both during this time.

  31. Barbara (Nashville) says:

    Praying for you Jim and Detta. May God bless you and keep you. Hospices provides wonderful care for your beloved Detta and will help with your needs as well.

  32. jazzlover says:

    Dear Az Jim,

    Know that your beautiful Detta is receiving the best care possible to help her at this difficult time. Know also that so many of us here are sending our prayers to you both. Keep talking to your beautiful girl as your voice is more helpful than any medicine. Much love being sent to you both.

  33. Barb from Hoquiam says:

    Oh Jim and Detta. Prayers coming!

  34. Betsy in NW PA says:

    Jim and Detta, you are in my prayers. I pray God will enfold you both in his love. . now and in all the days to come💕

  35. Martha in PA says:

    Jim and Detta – I am praying for you. Stay strong. God is good and will hear all our prayers on your behalf.

  36. Oh no. Prayers for you both Jim, praying for sense of peace. Huge hugs.

  37. Deena in Phoenix says:

    Prayers to our favorite blogorino “Uncle” AZ Jim and his beloved Detta.

  38. Judy in east texas says:

    Jim and Detta, may you find peace in the love you share and the prayers we all send your way. Judy

  39. Jan NH says:

    My heart and thoughts are with you, Jim and Detta. Wishing you both peace through the love you have for each other.

  40. Joyce F in Kansas says:

    Prayers for both of you from Kansas

  41. Judy J. in S.C. says:

    Jim, I am praying that you know His strength, comfort and peace as you continue to give Detta your love and support. Knowing that Detta is receiving the best of care, we trust that she feels and knows all the love that is surrounding her and is at peace. Talk to her, sing to her, pray with her. She’ll know you are there and feel comforted. 🙏💕 Judy

  42. Elizabeth says:

    Remembering Jim and Detta to the FATHER…this the worst part of life we all dread…so sorry it has come to you two!! I pray you will be given extra strength and less pain in your having to walk to get into see her!!

  43. Marcia GB in MA says:

    Many prayers for Jim and Detta. May the Lord bless you and hold you in his light.

  44. Velda says:

    So sad and sorry to hear you are going through this. My hugs, thoughts, and prayers are for you.

  45. Karen LeMoine says:

    Praise be you both know the Lord from which peace and comfort flow. Hold tight to the love that bonds you two. Prayers to the Father for strength and courage to see you both through this situation. We all care.

  46. Pauline in Mississippi says:

    Jim and Detta, my heart goes out to both of you! I am praying that the Lord will give you comfort and peace. May He put His Loving Arms around you and hold you so very close.
    I pray that you will find the strength and courage and faith to face the days ahead.
    Sending BIG HUGS

  47. Willow says:

    My love and prayers to you both…..💜

  48. Mick'nTN says:

    Praying for the best that can be, Jim and Detta.

  49. AZ Jim says:

    Thank you. Detta is in Hospice now. I just saw her. She is mostly asleep but we did tell each other of our love. Thanks to all for the prayers, I am so in pain in my heart.

  50. There are no words to take away your pain and suffering. May you find the courage to get through this difficult time. Be sure to lean on friends and family. Don’t be alone.

  51. eliza says:

    I’m thinking of you, Jim and Detta – I know the trauma of having a loved one in hospice and am also so very grateful for the wonderful care provided by hospice. May you find courage in this phase of your journey together, and hold the love in your heart as much as you can. Take strength from the joys you have shared.

  52. Sherri (sill) in California says:

    Oh Jim and Detta I am so sorry. Sending you hugs, prayers and thoughts.

  53. Arizona Sue says:

    Sending prayers to you Jim an Detta from Arizona.

  54. peggy says:

    Jim, I lost my husband of 44 years just 7 months ago. He was in hospice care at the end.
    They have volunteers who will help you with rides or whatever you need. This final time, be it days, weeks, or months, is precious. Now is the time to say all you need to say to your beloved wife.
    Know that you are surrounded by love.

  55. June CO says:

    I’m very sorry to hear this Jim. I pray that God’s grace will comfort you both during this very difficult time.

  56. The great spirits are with you Jim and Detta now and always to give you comfort and peace.

  57. Marilu in Northern California says:

    Dear Jim and Detta,
    I’m so sorry you are going through this. May your memories and your love for each other see you through.

  58. Kathy N says:


  59. AZ Jim says:

    I love you all. My baby is fading but I’ll try to stay till she leaves us…..Love Jim

    • Cc and canine (now in Oregon ) says:

      My heart aches for you and your beloved Detta…may God hold you both in his hands and give you his strength and comfort in this difficult time….she knows how much you love her, and that you are with her. That is the most beautiful passing that anyone can have.

  60. Jean in southaven, ms says:

    Dear Jim, thank you for reaching out to your online family. So sorry that Detta is not doing well. So thankful that she is not suffering with pain. I pray that angels stand with you and Detta and that God’s grace will give you strength for the days and nights ahead. We love and care for you. Wish I was close enough to help. Will continue to pray for you always.

  61. Laura Ours says:

    I am going to go offer up prayers now for AZ Jim and his lovie Detta. Glad to hear you have been able to see her and be with her at this most difficult time.

  62. Donna N Girls in Chandler says:

    Detta and Jim,

    Sending hugs, prayers and love your way.

  63. Kitt NW WA says:

    Jim and Detta,
    May God hold you in his warm and comforting hands during these difficult times.

  64. Cynthia in San Clemente says:

    Oh Sue, I cannot believe it – I was making the bed this morning and AZ Jim and Detta popped into my mind. I thought about how he always calls you Missy and although some modern feminists might be offended, I have always thought it was so adorable and affectionate. It just kills me to think about how helpless he must feel to not be able to get to his beloved easily. I will add them both to my prayer list – I just know the Holy Spirit planted them in my mind this morning….

  65. Wendy - Bribie Is,Oz says:

    Prayers being sent from Australia.

  66. Shawna says:

    Love and prayers to you both.

  67. Geri from the FL panhandle says:

    Dear Lord, please put your loving hands on Detta, ease her pain. Please Lord, comfort Jim, he needs your love during this time. We all feel Jim’s heavy heart, and want to ease his fear and sorrow . Jim and Detta are part of our family here and Lord, we appreciate your healing love. Amen.🙏

  68. Rover Ronda says:

    Love and prayers for you Jim and Detta

  69. Paula in Indiana says:

    Dear Az Jim,

    I am so sorry to hear this news. Prayers and hugs to you and your beloved Detta.

  70. Hilogene in Az says:

    Prayers coming your way.

  71. Laura says:

    May the Lord bless and keep you both. Prayers sent.

  72. FloridaScott In Ajo says:

    Dear Jim & Detta,

    May God Give You Strength And Comfort You Through This Difficult Time.


  73. Clay n NeTx says:

    Jim and Detta, God will receive Detta into His loving arms where she will have no more pain and aches when He is ready to bring her home. My prayers to God through Jesus for peace and comfort for you both during this time. I have read your posts here over the years Jim, and you and Detta are like family even though we have never met. My prayers will continue to be with you. God Bless. Clay

  74. Nickie says:

    Praying for you, Jim and Detta, and sending love. I’m so sorry.

  75. Pam from California says:

    I have read your blog for years. However, tonite with tears in my eyes I am praying hard for Jim and his precious Detta.

  76. Patricia says:

    Jim and Detta
    Thoughts and prayers r heading ur way.

  77. Willow says:

    My love and prayers to you both.

  78. Kat and Cookie dog from NY says:

    Sending hugs, prayers and white light to both of them

  79. AR Rose says:

    Praying that you will feel the comforting arms of the Holy Spirit as the prayers go up for you and Detta. Love to both of you.

  80. mary batt says:

    It is in Gods hands; it always has been; He and Detta are talking. Blessings to both of you as you do this together. God is with you.

    mb in Abita Springs, LA

  81. Lauri C. says:

    Blessings sent.

  82. Krystina says:

    Sending up prayers for you Jim and for “your girl” Detta.

  83. MB Dillard says:

    Dear AZ Jim,

    There are tears falling and prayers going up here in VA for you and your sweet wife. A love like yours is a special thing indeed…..her worrying about you and you calling her “My girl”. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Love from VA,

  84. Diann in MT says:

    God bless you, Jim, and may He hold you close as you assure Detta of your love.

  85. Jason fro NY says:

    Jim, you and your wife will be in my prayers. 🙏🏼

  86. EILEEN DYKEMAN says:

    So sorry to hear this news. I’m sending big cyber hugs to Jim and Detta, and will keep them in my thoughts and prayers.

  87. ApplegirlNY says:

    Jim, Your difficulties bring tears to my eyes. We love you and Detta. I am praying for you at this difficult time.

  88. CherylinlowerthumbofMI says:

    Prayers of sweet peace be upon you both. Be comforted by His loving spirit and assurances of a greater life in His Kingdom…now and forever.

    Jim, life is tough, and this next trial will be of your ever faitful love for, your ‘Baby’ sweet Detta. She knows that you love her and that will make ALL the difference. Hang tough, as only God is in control. Bless all the hospice staff, keep them in your love and keeping.

    All asked and answered, in His name we pray. Amen.

  89. S. Kaeseman says:

    God provide them strength and love during their time of pain. Bless them and keep them safe Lord.
    S. Kaeseman

  90. Jim in Columbus Ohio says:

    Prayers from Ohio for you Jim and Detta

  91. Linda in Kentucky says:

    Prayers and Love sent for Jim & Detta.

  92. Susan Vlastelica says:

    So very sad for both Detta and Jim. Lots of hugs and prayers for both of them.

  93. Alex says:

    Sending prayers and love to you both-

  94. Shelley in CA says:

    Sending prayers, I have always enjoyed his kind posts.

  95. Chaunte in West TN says:

    I am so sorry to hear of Detta’s health issues.
    I am sending healing prayers your way. Stay strong!

  96. Ann in Phoenix says:

    Prayers for comfort and peace for Jim and Detta.

  97. Barbara from Camano Island says:

    Oh Jim, my heart aches for you. Sue is right, your words say it all. What at deep and wonderful love you have . How special that you have had the opportunity to express your love to each other, I am happy for that. May God be with you and guide you both.

  98. Sarvi in OR says:

    Sending strength for the coming days.

  99. Denise - Richmond VA says:

    Dear AZ Jim,

    Please know that both you and your sweet Detta are surrounded by lots of love and prayers. May the good Lord provide you the strength needed at this time. I am so sorry that you are in so much pain. Sending extra prayers, loving thoughts, and hugs.

  100. Barb in Florida says:

    Love you Uncle Jim!. Sending love, hugs and prayers to you and your girl.

  101. Merle Healy says:

    Prayers, being sent your way….

  102. Terri in Tx., for now says:

    Dear AZ Jim, I would like to say, sincerely, what everyone else has said! I pray for you and Detta and pray you both will receive comfort. I have read your stories, and poetry, and witticisms over the years and know that both you and Detta are wonderful people! Please try to stay strong and know that God will be with you.

  103. Suzi says:

    May God shed his blessings over both of you, Dear Jim, and your beloved Detta.

    In prayer, Suzi.

  104. Kay Dattilio says:

    Prayers for Detta and Jim and peace…

  105. AZ Jim says:

    I love you all and I am thankful for your thoughts and prayers. I am on my way to see my honey even though she can no longer speak to me just sitting and holding her hand makes me feel better.

  106. weather says:

    It’s wonderful that you can sit with Detta and hold her hand, Jim. Knowing you get to do that makes me feel better, too.
    Sending prayers and love, weather

  107. Patricia Kitchen says:

    Jim, thank you for letting us know that you are able to spend time with your beloved today. We are all thinking of and praying for both of you and it is so good to know that you are holding hands now. I am sure that Detta will draw strength and reassurance from your loving touch. May the angels guard and watch over you both. Pat, Bulverde, Tx.

  108. Debbie Canton,Ohio says:

    Sending prayers for you and your wife. May you feel the arms of all who love you surrounding you both.

  109. Denise - Richmond VA says:

    Dearest Jim,

    I am so glad that you and Detta are able to be together. Sending you both loving thoughts and prayers. **hugs**

  110. Annie in Indiana says:

    Jim, you and your sweet Detta are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort in the love that you share.

  111. lily says:


    Your situation gave me pause to open a dialogue with my husband of 42 years regarding how we should appreciate each other more.

    I am in hopes that you are coping with what may occur as best you can and know that there are many people who are praying for you both.

    I prayed for you just now.

    Kindest regards,

  112. Elizabeth says:

    Jim, no doubt Detta knows you are with her even if she cannot speak right now. And they say even in a coma, one can hear…so talk to her, sing to her if you are able (I am never able to croak out a tune when emotional)…whatever you know soothes her too. Blessings on you and so sorry for this difficult of times!!

  113. LYNN in Kentucky says:

    Prayers for strength, peace, love, and comfort. This world is not our home. We are only passing through.

  114. Ruthie in Fontana says:

    Jim and Detta, Love to you during this time, prayers to your love.

  115. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your lovely wife. May God smile upon you both.

  116. AZ Jim Heartbroken says:

    Dear friends, I spent several hours with my Detta today, even though she may not know I’m there…I do. The nurse tells me she has little time left. I’m am trying to cope but I am just lost without Detta. I’ll try and keep you guys informed and I thank you with all my heart for your love and prayers.

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      The pain of your broken heart is a testimony to an exceptionally fine lady and the deep love you share. You have touched many, Jim, as evidenced here by the outpouring of tender words and prayers. God give you strength for the days ahead.

      Love you,

  117. Seana in AZ (for now!!) says:

    Peace is more than so many of us can ask for. May your sweet girl find hers. May you find yours as well, AZ Jim.

    Many blessings…

  118. weather says:

    Oh, Jim, you dear,dear man, of course you are heartbroken and lost now. Even though Detta cannot respond to you, you have been showing your love and devotion with every hour you’ve spent at her side…Thank you for giving us news, about her and about you. I hope you will keep being able to stay in touch here whenever you can,even if it’s just with a few words.

    You remain,as you have so often for years now, in my thoughts, heart and prayers.

  119. Denise - Richmond VA says:

    Dear Jim,

    Your sense of loss understandable. It is true testament of the love and devotion that you and Detta have for each other. Your sweet love knows you are with her, even if she cannot respond. May you find peace, comfort, and strength in knowing that. Sending you both loving thoughts and prayers.

  120. AZ Jim (missing my Detta) says:

    My beloved Detta Passed today at 3:25 Arizona time. I feel lost. I went there and kissed her goodbye shortly after she was gone. I thank you all for the love you gave us during this time. I’ll be back after I get back together. Love to you all.

    • Rest in peace Detta. A beautiful red chested hummingbird visited me today & hovered about three feet from my head…looking, looking at me. I got up and slowly walked to feeder but the hummer wasn’t interested. Perhaps an angel visited me today dressed as a hummer.

    • rvsueandcrew says:

      Love to you, too, Jim. Take care and come back to us when you’re ready.

      You did well.

    • Elizabeth says:

      So terribly sorry Jim!! May GOD surround you with HIS comfort. You did so well to take care of Detta so long!!

    • Renee from Idaho says:

      God bless dear Detta. I’m so sorry for your loss Jim and please know that we are all here for you. Take care and God bless.

  121. weather says:

    Detta was blessed by being your wife and having you care for her, Jim. Please try to take very good care of yourself now. Love,weather

  122. SusanV says:

    So very very sorry for your loss.

  123. Paula in Indiana says:

    Dear Jim, I am so very sorry for your loss. May you be comforted by the memories of the special love you shared with Detta.

  124. Cc and canine (now in Oregon ) says:

    I’m so very sorry for your loss…,she is free from pain now and in a better place.
    My heart aches for you.

  125. Wendy- Bribie Is, Oz says:

    So sorry for your loss.

  126. ApplegirlNY says:

    Jim, I haven’t stopped thinking about you and praying for you. Will continue to do so.

  127. Cat M says:

    I am so sorry for your loss Jim. I pray that time will move swiftly to a place where the pain is less and becomes replaced with your wonderful memories of your sweet Detta.

    BIG (((hugs))) from Kansas City, Missouri

  128. CherylinTheLowerThumbofMI says:

    Jim, you’ve been in my thoughts & prayers consistently since your sad news of Detta’s hospitalization. My heartfelt prayers for you, & a celebratory one for Detta’s spirit. She is in a whole new world, now…no pain, just beautiful sights & sounds forever…’til you are joined again. Big {{Hugs}}. Will be praying for you to have strength to get through this journey.

    Very sincerely,

  129. Deena in Phoenix says:

    Sorry for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers…see ya when you return.

    Take Care

  130. Shelley in CA says:

    Sending my condolences to you, I am so sorry for your loss.

  131. Denise - Richmond VA says:


    Sending you lots of love. Your beloved Detta is now at peace, whole and free from pain and suffering. Please know that you will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Take good care of yourself, my friend. **hugs**

  132. Geri from the FL panhandle says:

    Jim, never fear! Detta will always be with you in your heart. Your love is so strong. She is with the angels keeping watch over you. Love is like that!💗

  133. Steve Kaeseman says:

    Rest in Peace Detta. May God give strength and comfort to Jim and their family.

  134. Dawn in NC says:

    Jim, I am so sorry to hear about Detta. Now she is in a place where she is painfree and totally free of this world’s burdens. The worst part is for those left behind. I will be praying for you to be comforted in this harsh time.

  135. Cynthia in San Clemente says:

    Jim, thank you for updating all of us about Detta. She was lifted to heaven with many prayers for her peaceful passage. And what a lucky, blessed woman to have had you as her husband. So many women would love to have a man as caring and loving as you. Take good care of yourself in these next few weeks and come back to us when you are ready.

  136. Sharon says:

    So sorry for your loss. The love and memories will remain always. Prayers go up for you and Detta.

  137. A Gal and a cat in Fl. says:

    Many of us here are feeling your heartbreak Jim. As others have expressed, peace to you and prayers your will again smile when you think of your girl. So sorry.

  138. Jan NH says:

    I am so sorry for your loss and hope that the wonder memories of your life together and the love you had for each other will carry you through and help you heal.

  139. Cinandjules🌵 says:

    Dearest AZJim,

    My apologies for being absent (family death) during such a difficult time. Sending my deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved Detta. The love that was shared for each other was beautiful! May you find comfort and strength.

    Godspeed AZDetta!

    If you need anything…you have my number.

  140. Lily says:

    I just saw that Detta had passed. I am very sorry.

  141. Joann rainbird in AZ says:

    AZ Jim, I am so sorry to read your sweet Detta passed. I’m praying for healing, peace and comfort to you and your family.
    I’ve always loved how you wrote about your “Girl” May she rest in peace.
    You will remain in my prayers as you face this new normal. Huggs to you.

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